Some would say that flirting is an art and some people are naturally better at it than others. But we think when you’re interested in flirting with a romantic interest there is a bit of science behind the art as well.  So master how to be a flirty guy with a few tips.


Where and how does this flirting start? More importantly, how do you flirt with a girl? There’s a simple three-step formula that we like to use.

First, you want to make yourself presentable. This means looking the part, from your clothes to your skin. 

Second, you want to make sure the girl feels comfortable. This means giving her space to be herself while also showing that she can trust you. 

Third, you want to be a good listener. Put the phone down, listen to what she has to say, make eye contact, nod to show you’ve heard her, and respond kindly when needed. She’ll appreciate that you’re keeping an open ear to her words.

While these three steps may seem easy to follow, there’s more science to it. 

There are also some other tips and tricks that you’ll need to know. Therefore, we’ve gether a small laundry list of tips to show you how to be a flirty guy to level up your flirting game. Lets Dive in - 

Make Yourself Presentable 

Let’s face it, everyone likes a well dressed man.  With that said, it can mean a wide range of looks and styles. You should never compromise your own style, but rather find something that you like that also looks presentable and appropriate for the occasion and location.

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Whether it’s a graphic tee or a button-down shirt, finding the right fit can make all the difference in the world, especially when it comes to first impressions. It will show you’ve got a bit of class, a bit of style and you actually put thought into it. But keep in mind the environment of your first meeting and dress accordingly for a coffee house, bar, restaurant or a club. 

You also want to feel confident in your own skin. Make sure you practice good grooming habits. Trim your nails and wash and condition your hair and style it nicely with some products. Make sure you have a good skincare routine: Use a face wash for men to cleanse your skin, an exfoliating men’s face scrub to revive and revitalize your skin, a men's shave cream to clean up your facial hairs, a clay mask to refresh your skin, and then an antioxidant face moisturizer to replenish your skin. Now do a quick scan for any skin redness, acne marks or dark circles under the eyes and use a bit of concealer to mask those slight imperfections. Trust us, this will give you the polished look you want to impress. This men’s skincare routine is the confident booster you need to make sure you’re looking your best and feeling confident. 

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Keep the Conversation Light and Playful

Flirting is all about building some playful tension and making both parties want more. You’re not going to accomplish that by starting a conversation talking about religion or politics.  Instead, focus on more general, fun topics that will keep both of you at ease. Talk about common experiences, your favorite vacation destination, or whether you’re a cat or dog person. 

A few of our favorite types of insightful questions are.  What shows are currently streaming on your TV?  What music would I find on repeat when riding in your car?  What travel destinations are on your bucket list? These are questions that will bring about interesting conversation and will also offer some insight into the person and their likes, personality, etc. 

Make Them Feel Comfortable

If there’s one thing that’s absolutely paramount, it’s to make sure that your date feels comfortable and at ease around you.  At no point should anyone feel pressured into doing something that they don’t want to. So how do you make them feel comfortable? 

Avoid being too pushy, or getting too close if they’re trying to keep some distance. Listen and observe and react accordingly. If they’re comfortable, they’ll let their guard down and feel at ease with you. Otherwise, realize when you should stop.

Be a Good Listener

There’s an old joke where a man is on a date and asks the person, after talking about himself for the past 30 minutes, “Enough about me, what do you think about me?” That’s exactly what you don’t want to do! 

Make sure you listen to what they’re saying--and that you’re actually listening and not “phone screen” distracted.  Studies show that by listening to understand and internalize what they have to say, you’ll strengthen the bond and make them feel heard. After all, that’s what we all want, isn’t it?

Use Touch - When Appropriate

Touch is a very powerful tool you have at your disposal when learning how to be a flirty guy.  In fact, studies show that a light touch shows interest and if reciprocated, eases the moment. The key is to start slowly (and innocently) so they can choose to reciprocate and you can gauge their level of interest. 

If there’s reciprocation, you can slowly start to make slower but slightly bolder moves and make extended eye contact before pulling away.  Done right, it’ll drive them crazy--in a good way!

Be Confident but Not Cocky While Flirting

Make sure you exude confidence without the cockiness. Having some nerves is completely understandable, but don’t be a nervous wreck. They’re probably in the exact same boat and just as nervous as you are. 

Project confidence without being too cocky. It’ll make a world of difference when it comes to learning how to be a flirty guy.

One thing is certain: learning how to be a flirty guy takes time, and there’s no tried-and-true method that works 100% of the time. Like we mentioned earlier, learning how to be a flirty guy is bit of art with a dash of science.

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Give yourself room to experiment, fail, and succeed, and you’ll slowly learn what works best for you.  You’ll get there before you know it!

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